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Alternatives to Family Trees, Baby Albums and Heritage Projects at School

If you are an adoptive parent, you are not alone if you dread school Family Tree projects or “When I Was a Baby” assignments. When my oldest son Keith started Pre-K, I thought we would have a little grace time before we ran into one of those. But… Read More
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Second-Parent Adoptions - Advanced Issues

I recently wrote about why married same-sex couples, particularly female couples who conceive their child using anonymous donor sperm, still should complete a second-parent adoption. I want to look at some other forms of family formation here, and ad… Read More
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Second-parent adoptions: Do I still need to do one after Obergefell?

The question comes up eventually. Whether I am doing a talk specifically for LGBT parents or at a meet-up of same-sex families like mine, a mother will ask me: Do I really need to do a second-parent adoption? Still? The “still” is because of Ober… Read More
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Religious Freedom Laws and the License to Discriminate

This post originally appeared in the Expert Advice section on the great site Gays with Kids. I was in my office this past June when the Supreme Court (finally) held that the right to marry extends to same-sex couples with the Obergefell decision. I w… Read More
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Four Things You Must Put in Your Adoption Profile

Making an adoption profile seems overwhelming when you are first putting it together. It’s easy to get lost in choosing the perfect picture or just the right words. Here are four simple tips that will help you find your way: 1. New pictures Sur… Read More
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What the Recent SCOTUS Ruling Means for New Yorkers

This post originally ran on the blog of the New York Legal Assistance Group, and was co-authored with staff attorney Anya Mukarji-Connolly. The historic United States Supreme Court ruling that has legalized same-sex marriage sends a strong message of… Read More
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Modernizing US Citizenship Laws Regarding Assisted Reproduction

There’s good news for US citizens living abroad who use assisted reproductive technology to build their families! For years the State Department has required that a child born outside of the United States be genetically related to the US citizen pa… Read More
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Talking to Kids About Donor Conception

With the help of donor sperm, eggs, and embryos, families are able to have the baby they dreamed of. But do you tell your child about donor conception? And when do you do it? Since 2004, the American Society of Reproductive Medicine (”ASRM”) has… Read More
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Language Matters - How Courts Talk about Children and Parents

I read a lot of court opinions, and, to be honest, they are usually kind of dull. Judges write in a very modulated style and are not known for dramatic flourishes. But recently I’ve come across two opinions that made me take notice – one because… Read More
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Baby Care Classes for Pre-Adoptive and Expecting Intended Parents

When you’re knee deep in the adoption process or your surrogacy journey, it can be surprisingly easy to lose sight of the fact that at the end of process you really will be adding a new baby to your family. Some pre-adoptive and expecting inten… Read More
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